Tuesday, April 1, 2008

Poorest of the Poor Written by Terra H-N



It is my first time. My mom had been before. We get out of the car and children surround us right away wanting to carry our bags. I follow my mom down the dirt path. One little black girl slides her hand into my mom’s hand and walks along side her. On a mat outside the brick building a woman sits, yelling something in Chichewa. Next to her are a pair of crutches. Her one foot is turned inward. It looks like a knob on top of a staff. Her one leg has no muscle. She is obviously upset about something. I shake her hand and greet her in chichewa. “Muli Bwanji”, I say politely. No answer. Not even eye contact. I quickly move away from her and onto the next hand shake.

The building we go into {of course} is very run down. It is dark inside. The only table is missing half a leg, dust everywhere, and broken chairs. A couple of kids place some rocks under the leg to balance the table. It still wobbles. Lined against the wall, people sit on benches. Many women are scattered on the floor, nursing babies and holding children.

I had been curious to see an albino. I had heard my parents speak about them. I asked my mom to point one out to me when she saw one. I didn’t need her to do this. While I scanned the room, amidst all the black faces, I spotted several whiter than mine. Their faces pale, chalky white, their skin cracked and wrinkled from sun exposure. Even their hair is a yellowish color.

The plan for that afternoon was to give each family a bag of maize. The people that were supposed to deliver the maize didn’t show up so the club members didn’t get their maize. They were so disappointed. The people are hungry. The harvest has not come in yet. We’ll have to give it out next week.

First we sing a couple of songs and then the adults do knitting while I go with the children to do a craft. This week we’re making paper eggs and decorating them for an Easter party that we’re having next week. It is fun but the language barrier is always a problem. My mom and I sat with some older kids that speak very good English. Blessings, is 25 and Cecilia, is 16. They both come with siblings who have handicaps. Blessings carries his brother,Yosef, on his back to and from the club. My mom thinks that Yosef has muscular dystrophy. Cecilia’s brother can walk but with a crutch. There is something wrong with one of his legs. At one point Blessings asks my mom if he could become her son in law! Ahhhhhhh....bad news for me! Luckily my mom just laughs and says, “NO!”. One little girl that I was introduced to is about 4 or 5. She was 3 years old when a truck hit her and she had to get both of her legs amputated! It is so sad and now she has two fake legs. Since in this culture men think they’re more important than woman, when the truck driver hit the little girl he didn’t even stop, he just kept going. He didn’t help pay any of the hospital bills or anything.

These are the poorest of the poor in Africa. They are the handicapped and disabled. If they have a disability, their families are too poor to help them. They can’t afford eyeglasses, braces or wheelchairs. The government offers them no money or assistance. Many people with handicaps are treated like outcasts. They have terrible unwanted social stigmas attached to them simply because of the way they were born. Some people in the USA consider the disabled unlucky or unfortunate, but when my mom and I went to this program for the disabled and handicapped I came home saying that the disabled and handicapped in America are so lucky and fortunate compared to these people. If something was wrong with a child in America they would be helped and treated right away and would get attention and care from many people. The people with handicaps in Malawi are alienated, ostracized, and looked down upon. Yet despite the way they look I found these people humble, brave, and gentle.

30 comments:

Lisienne said...

Terra,

This is an amazingly beautiful story, and you tell it excellently. It feels like you've found a calling of your own there, one that you probably did not expect. You also have an incredible talent for giving a voice to those who have no one to listen to them, to their suffering. That is a pure gift indeed. Keep doing what you're doing, and keep telling the stories that need to be told. I'm behind you all the way.

Love,
Lisa Neuman

Anonymous said...

Oh Terra! Your story really touches my heart. It's so beautifully written, I can begin to picture the place you're writing about and the people you met there. How wonderful it must be for them to get visitors like you and your mom, so they realize that people have not forgotten about them. Tonight at our "2 or More" prayer group we'll say some special prayers for everyone you met at the club.
Love and prayers to you and the whole family,
Mrs. Daly

Onz said...

Terra,
I can tell from your story that you are really growing up there in Malawi. I am sure there are unending days where the reality that surrounds you makes you emotionally tired. But through your writing I can tell there is a strength of compassion within you that won't let you be overcome by the bad days. Keep up the great work!
Uncle John and God loves all you H-N's

Jem said...

Terra, my dear little sister,
I have such a vivid mental picture of you surrounded by these people who have been cast aside by society. You are extremely passionate with a large heart- I don't know any other child who at age 7 decided to become a vegetarian, or who was so sensitive to animals - even when Dad would kill a bug! Your sensitivity and love for animals is transferring to these people with whom you live. It is evident, through your story, that you are quickly, and at a very young age, opening your eyes and heart to the bigger world.
I am so proud of you.
Love, Jem-Jem

Unknown said...

Terra,
I've heard so many stories about your adventures in Malawi from living with Jem this semester. It was wonderful to read about your experience in meeting the disabled children and families. One of the boys in the picture accompanying your post looks a lot like a boy I used to tutor here in Washington DC. Partially because of this and also your insightful description of your experience in meeting these people really brought to life the problems and difficulties that many people in the world face every day and one would rarely encounter during life in the US. It is clear that the world needs more people like you to reach out to those in need as well as spread their stories to those who are unable to experience them firsthand.
Continue to keep your eyes, heart, and mind open to learn as much as you can from this valuable experience.
Love, Molly

Joan said...

Hi Terra,
Last night at 2 or more we each said a special prayer for these special people who you have touched. Just know we are praying for all of you and think of you every day. I am missing you all but know that you are doing amazing work in Africa. Thanks for sharing your heart wrenching story with us. We need to hear these stories so that we can thank God everyday for all our blessings.
Love,
Miss Joan

Unknown said...

That is such a moving story! It realy does explain how fortunate we are to have what we have, and I'm proud of that. The people there sound really nice but also really desparate. Keep it up and God be with you!

Jem Nelson said...

Dear Terra, Thanks for your heart-rending Blog! I was able to be a part of your experience just from reading your amazing descriptions. First,I wanted to send a table and some chairs and get my broom out to start a clean-up. Then I wanted to make some vegetable soup, enough for all, and then try some smiles and warm closeness. It really is difficult to understand why innocent people have to suffer. We were taught the first day in nursing that there is a difference between sympathy and empathy - empathy is helpful, sympathy brings all down to the lowest rung. You seem to instinctive know that. What a wonderful experience, what a wonderful granddaughter. Love to an almost teenager. Grandma

Anonymous said...

ShunHun
Well said. The language barrier must be a real bummer, are you learning any Chichewa? I like hearing about your life over there - you should post more often. Reading about your experiences makes me really pumped to come over, I'll see you soon enough.
Keep posting!
Love,
TBone

Anonymous said...

Terra,
What an awesome experience you had. Your writing gives an extremely descriptive account of your time with the poorest of the poor. It really helped me understand and see what I will be coming over to. I love you and miss you.
Clay

Anonymous said...

COOL

Anonymous said...

Hey Terra,
Great story!Sounds like your having a great time in africa.Happy early Birthday I know you'll have a memorible birthday in africa.Its great to hear from you guys.
Love,
Kelsey

Unknown said...

Terra-

Some of the lessons we learn in life aren't sweet but they need to be learned nonetheless. Keep seeing, keep helping, keep writing.

You're a brave young woman who I am proud to know.

Chris Scaturo

Anonymous said...

Terra,

Great job. It's obvious that you must have learned a lot about life and a lot of writing skills from your sixth grade Sunday School teacher! Just kidding.

We in the United States live such sheltered lives, and oftentimes don't realize how many blessings we have. It's great that you are getting able to see such a different culture and what it's like for people who don't have so much of what we take for granted, and are able to express it so well so that we be with you in spirit. I hope that I'll be able to bring Ethan with me to visit you guys, so that you can show him around and help him to see just a piece of what you're experiencing.

Thank you for sharing, your writing is excellent. Keep up the good work.

Your friend,

Bob

Anonymous said...

Terra,

I am so touched by your incredibly grown up account of your experiences. You are not only learning for yourself, but for all of us who are reading your blog site. Keep learning, helping and caring. You have a huge heart. I miss the H-N family. Stay well.

Love, Mrs. Kern

Anonymous said...

Dear Terra, I love your story and the honesty of being curious and confused about what you see in Malawi compared to life in the U.S.. Your facing the hard questions of life inspires me to look beyond my safe little community and also be challenged to live the gospel. What a place to move into your teenage years! I am grateful for your sharing of stories with us. Love to all of you, Katy

Damaris said...

Hi Terra,
You did such an amazing job of telling your story. All the details made me feel like I was there. You are truly a gifted writer. I hope you are keeping a journal of your thoughts and experiences - perhaps you can put them into a book for kids so they can learn about all the help that is needed in Malawi.
Love you and miss you all,
Damaris
P.S. I'm glad your mom said no to you getting married! That was really funny!

Anonymous said...

Dear Terra,

Thank you for sharing your perspective to us. You have always had a heart for children of all ages, especially the youngest. It was no surprise looking at pictures of you with a child on your lap. You care for them here and you care for them here.

Even though you may think children are more fortunate in U.S. if they have a disability compared to African children and people of all ages, they are still ignored here in the U.S. as well. I know this first hand having disabled family members on both sides. My hope and prayer is that anyone reading your logs will have their eyes opened even more to the needs around us here (even in Allentown). It is easy for me to go about my day and forget the disabled (physically and mentally) right in my own back yard. Your post certainly makes me more aware that we ALL need to bloom where we are planted.

I am feeling for those who are neglected and feeling like no one cares for them, that must be so hard for you to experience that everyday over in Malawi. You can easily see that day after day as it is so obvious around you. I feel that we have too many facades we hide behind here and that sometimes no one can see who is hurting even right in front of us. And we are too wrapped up in self to look behind the mask. They have nothing to cover themselves up in front of you - so they are exposed.

I will pray for your strength as you face this everyday.

Thank you for your gifts, and know it is giving us ALL food for thought and opening our eyes more everyday. For we all have our own "Africa" as well living right under our noses.

Stay strong and remember these words of the Apostle Paul when you feel down: "Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with God's people who are in need. Practice hospitality." Romans 12:10-13.

You are living it girl, be encouraged that you have a gift to share that God has blessed you with. I am proud that you are letting Him use you as His instrument. Stay Strong Sister.

I love you,
Aunt Michele

Anonymous said...

Terra, you are an absolute gem! You write so beautifully...I can feel your heart in every word. It seems as though all the love that God pours into you just can't be contained. And all the people you are meeting in Africa are experiencing His love through you. What a blessing! Please keep writing...and posting!!

Love you!
LB

pielover06 said...

Wow, Terra. Wow. It's terrible. I have more than enough and I still want more. I am greedy. You are not.
Miss you,
Julie

Kara said...

Terra,

Thanks for taking the time to share your experience with us.

It's tempting for me to hear stories like that and simply say, "Wow, I'm really blessed that I don't have to live like that." I could just stop there. But that's absolutely not what God asks of us. You're demonstrating that for us.

Sometime, when you get a chance, I'd love to hear some ideas you have for what we who are stuck here in America (at least for now) can do to combat or alleviate suffering like that you've witnessed. Maybe we should live more selflessly where we are? Maybe we should tell others about life for the disabled in Malawi? Maybe we should send money to ministers like your family to help?

I have some ideas, but I bet you have way more creative thoughts based on your experience there.

We miss you!
~ Kara (and Charlie)

Anonymous said...

Terra,
Thanks for posting your story. Each one of you write such compelling perspectives of a culture that is so removed from our American lives. We know that the poor will always be with us but it is vital that they have a voice. Thank you for giving voice to the children's lives.
We all love you and miss you so much!!
Eileen

Anonymous said...

Terra -

Thank you for sharing this experience. It must have been very difficult to put this all into words. Your beautiful heart has allowed you to have far more compassion than most. Unfortunately, people with disabilities experience isolation all over the world - even here in the U.S. Certainly, what you are witnessing is more profound that what is seen here. It must be devastating. Was this "facility" only for those with physical disabilities? Did you also encounter those with developmental disabilities? Terra...we are so glad that you have been called to speak out for these people. Please keep writing. It is a gift to many. We are praying for your continued warmth and strength. With love, The Molokies

Unknown said...

when i read this i almost cried. you wrote this beautifully and i cannot believe how strong you are. if i were to be there i would have started crying so much because of the sadness that you saw. you are so brave to be in africa. and though it may not seem so at first you have no idea how many people lives just you...terra hienzel nelson have helped and made so much brighter in the 5 months that you have been there. i miss you sooooo much and am literally counting down the days until see you again. the other day i had a dream about you and i woke up and really though you were there. anyway i loved this story, give all my love to your mom , dad, and jordan, and of course all my love to you. miss you, oh and thanks for the postcard i did get it. e-mail me soon.


love,
erica

Anonymous said...

Terra,
You better not come home married!
love,
Cass

Anonymous said...

Dear Terra:

You are truly doing the Lord's work by helping the outcast and the weak. You have given a voice to their plight.

As someone who has a passion for helping children with disabilities it really saddens me to hear of the treatment of these adults and children. You are right that if these people were here in the USA we would care for them.

Do you or your family know of a way we, back at home can help them?

Please continue to do such a fine job. Your compassion for others shines through your words.

God Bless,
Allyn M.

Unknown said...

Hi Terra,
Thanks so much for sharing with us the beautiful and heart wrenching stories of the people you are meeting. God has given you such a wonderful gift of tenderness and compassion. I can just picture you holding children, hugging those whom others might call outcasts, and bringing your beauitful smile into that dark room. Keep letting your beautiful light shine! (And don't come back engaged! haha)

love,
jenna

Anonymous said...

terra,
this is glenn. i'm not sure u remember me but anyhow sounds like your having a great time there. keep up the great work you are doing there. I read your story and it really inspired me alot. It touched my heart. Everyone misses you very much. I know it. I do too kiddo. Your a great kid. and one of the nicest kids I've ever met. and a great friend too. Say hi to your family for me and again keep up the good work. and always remember to follow your heart. Because the more you do that the better it'll be for you in life. If you know what I meen. In other words miracles will happen each day the more you follow your heart. and do what your heart tells you.
your buddy,
glenn

Anonymous said...

dear terra,
seems to me you are having a wonderful time and it looks to me as if your doing a terrific job with these kids and really enjoying this experience of yours. it's really amazing. and i'm very proud of you. Anyway I look on the internet everyday to see what other interesting stories is my buddy terra going to tell us today about africa. They are really amazing and very interesting. Hopefully someday soon you never know maybe you'll may want to think about writing a book about this experience and who knows maybe they can make a true story in a movie about this someday. You never know. This is really amazing. I'm really glad you are following everything your heart says. Because thats the best thing you should always be doing. I remember a friend telling me that not that long ago. It was one of my bowling teammates. anyway please say hi to the family for me and also email me sometime at coachgig@aol.com and let me know how things are going and keep me updated on these. Keep up that great work you are doing and I promisse you one day this experience will make u famous for this. You never know you may turn to be a celebrity for this in a great way. It'll be good for you. and you got the talent for all the work your doing out there. If you need any other advice on this tell me. I'm here for ya. please email me and keep me updated on your stories. and i'll be looking forward to hearing from you. say hi to everyone.
Love ya pal.
your buddy,
glenn

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